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Have you ever given that dreaded answer?
“I know that already”
when stumbling across a blog post or a tutorial that should tell you how it’s actually done?
So you could actually celebrate the successes you’re looking for and earn some money, become famous or whatever you intend to do?
Let’s get you the first advice right here.
Execute on it
If you read something: an advice, something to learn, something to do, a tutorial,
a book about how to change your mood, mind or life, don’t stick there and keep saying:
“I know….” what? “That” Erm…. “Already.”
For example, the blogs of Neil Patel are very great when you want to increase your website traffic
or want to become more famous online. And the orange color will you remind of him.
Wait a minute. This makes me think I need more color to build my branding, thanks, Neil. 🙂
I was there. And I am sometimes still there. I am guilty of doing this as well.
I watch a video and hope for something magically to change. Nope, Holger. Won’t work that way.
Reading a blog port or watching a tutorial video and then I don’t do shit.
Somehow we seem to have that incredibly big switch in our head that needs tons of leverage to make us actually start off.
And then if we start off there comes another one that makes us not push through. So we procrastinate when starting and we procrastinating to finish. Bummer.
One of the things we need to do is to small chunk our work into little pieces. As little as possible.
For example: Did you ever sit at home and you should learn for your studies because you write that very important test?
How many time is left? Some hours! Did you start to learn yet? No! Why? Because it’s so much! And it’s so boring.
It’s the same as
- reading a book $
- building an empire
- building a business
- saving money
- learning a foreign language
- training for a marathon
- training for a triathlon
- get ripped
None of the tasks is a little one. For sure not.
Let’s stick with language learning a little bit more here first, for example.
Let’s assume you want to learn Russian.
There is not just another language to learn. No. You’ve got also the learn the alphabet.
Not to speak of the dreaded task to learn the grammar later as well.
So we already got 3 big tasks:
- Alphabet – to be able to read
We introduce a lot of resistance to it as well.
“But I don’t have time…” is our most used excuse for that.
Bullshit. If we really want to, we find the time. It just means we don’t want to give it a high priority.
If you know still say “But I can’t….” read the book
Because of even one sentence alone, in my opinion, is worth the value of the book:
“Replace your ‘I cannot’ by ‘I will not'”.
Damn. That hurts to become of aware of that. But that’s exactly what we might need some time.
Leverage. If you still come from a place where the baseline actually tells you: Improve yourself.
So there are different approaches.
Ok, and you don’t even know where to start.
Oh by the way, if you now really intend to learn Russian you might have a look here:
I dug it. Because it clicked at least for me. If it doesn’t for you search another one.
See the tutorial, book or advice you’ve been given as something that you’ve bought for 1000 dollars.
Why? Because for a lot of you this is still shitloads of money and when you pay so much,
it’s much more probable that you execute on it and don’t cop out.
For example like Eric of Shoutmeloud.com pointed out here:
I came across this article and thought this might be very helpful. Because he wrote about proofreading.
Which I still sometimes have a hard time to do. And one advice I took immediately was:
Use Grammarly. So I treated this blog post as if it had cost me 1000 dollars.
Because then I was sure to read every detail thoroughly. Not leaving out a single line.
And I tried to apply everything to this blog here. But it doesn’t end there. There is more to it.
Your Best Friend
Consider those pieces of advice you get as your best friends.
Who are your best friends?
- The video you saw
- The blog post you’ve just read
- The podcast you’ve just listened to
- The notes you’ve just seen
- The infographics you’ve watched thoroughly
What does this mean to see them as your best friends?
Well, a good friend is someone we want to stick around with.
Someone we want to see again and again. And it never gets boring.
Because anytime we got something to learn, something to laugh and all kinds of stuff.
Overall: It’s the value this friendship is emanating.
What does this mean as well?
Repetition is the mother of mastery
Yeah, I know, you hate to repeat stuff over and over again.
Let’s go a little bit back in time. Ok… erm. Way back to be honest. When you were a little kid.
A baby. And you couldn’t even walk. How did you learn to talk? How did you learn walking?
By repetition and
Yes. I am serious. Make as many mistakes as you can. But then learn from them.
And like Eckhardt Tolle says in The Power Of Now if you learn from them then it is no mistake anymore.
Make all mistakes you can in order to learn. You will see this is the opposite of trying to be perfect from the get-go.
This is also a habit. Which is also valuable when learning languages.
Appreciate Little Successes
Don’t worry if you do not succeed during your first tries. Keep going. Sometimes it takes a lot of trials and errors
to get something done. But it is important to note that during each try sometimes improves.
Whether it might be your willpower, your coordination, your perception, you last longer
or you get more clear, confident or present. All valuable.
Perfect Practice makes Perfect
Don’t just practice to practice. Practice with your goal in mind and don’t give up.
If it is something that is not so easy to measure for example like learning social skills,
for example charisma, presence or attentiveness make notes and write reports.
Because then you got patterns written down you can become aware of when re-reading your notes.
Establish that habit. Stephen Covey gives a lot of tips on this in his book 7 Habits of highly effective people.
Reconsider Your Baseline
This is a point that has to do with your self-image as well the place you’re coming from.
It’s very likely that you have a distorted baseline. What do I mean by that?
We’re all about to change our life for the better at some time in our lives. But then we get stuck. We don’t know how to move on.
Where to go on?
Going to the left seems wrong, going to the right seems wrong as well. Looking from above or from down below seems not to be right either. Inside and outside doesn’t help as well.
Go way back and try another approach? We might even do that.
And then suddenly the feeling sneaks into our heart that there might be something wrong overall.
But we can’t really grasp it or put quite our finger on it. But for sure it’s there. We feel it.
Almost like a little needle sticking in our skin or a stone in our shoes.
We had worked on our happiness to become happier. Which reinforced that we’re unhappy.
We had worked on our finances to become richer. But we still think we’re not rich enough coming from a poor mindset.
We had worked on our health to become healthier. Reinforcing that we’re still sick.
We worked on our self-esteem, reinforcing that we have none.
This all arises from a baseline that we’re not good enough.
But what if we’re wrong?
The new/old baseline
We can reconsider our baseline. As a baby, we were born perfect.
We knew how to breathe.
We knew how to use our voice. I am sure you’ve never heard a baby that cried huskily if it wasn’t sick.
We knew how to be happy. What did we need to be happy? Nothing. We just have been happy.
What did we want from others? Nothing. When we smiled we just did it. No strings attached.
That’s also what we mean when we say:
“Oh my gosh. How cute. This baby is so innocent.”
Because then we only have to release the resistances that hold everything back n our subconsciousness that we’ve stuffed down there for so long.
The birth of the split
Therefore a split started to exist. Because we didn’t accept the things in ourselves we label as bad. Bad feelings. Bad habits. Bodyparts we do not like. And they run still in our subconsciousness.
We try to escape this split by evolving our capabilities and trying
to become better and better. To make the parts we love in ourselves so big that the negative does not count anymore.
A goal we will never reach.
The feelings want out. They can’t find the door.
And we want to let them go as well. But can’t access them anymore.
So this becomes only blockages that we have to remove.
And then for example confidence is not anymore something you have to learn, it’s something you realize.
And therefore after releasing what’s blocking you the desperation can leave and inspiration can finally kick in.
This is a milestone on the way to success you want to reach.
For all of you live a great life! Thanks.
P.S.: This is just something I write because I want everyone to give the possibility reconsidering her or his baseline. No need to do it.
Time – Pareto Principle
So far no master has fallen from the sky!
As a proverb says in Germany for example. Which just means give yourself time.
Time to practice. Time to learn and whenever needed: Time to reflect.
You can master some things faster if you learn how to get into flow state for example
and learn how to avoid bottlenecks.
But this is also true – the Pareto principle:
More generally, the Pareto Principle is the observation (not law) that most things in life are not distributed evenly. It can mean all of the following things:
- 20% of the input creates 80% of the result
- 20% of the workers produce 80% of the result
- 20% of the customers create 80% of the revenue
- 20% of the bugs cause 80% of the crashes
- 20% of the features cause 80% of the usage
And on and on…
And this as well is true:
If you try to shortcut your way to success this will cut your success short.
As a famous quote state.
To achieve mastery in any field nowadays needs a lot of time.
You needed a lot of time in the earlier times too. For sure. Many things have been so much extended
today that you can study almost anything for a lifetime and never gain all the knowledge contained in this field.
And it’s even possible to learn wrong. Just read knowledge is no valuable knowledge, applied knowledge is valuable.
Maybe someone tells you how to get Instagram famous. Therefore you KNOW it. But you don’t know if it works until you apply it.
Sometimes might even be the right information wrong for you. Because you need another approach to learning.
Everything is possible. For example, I had always a hard time to lace my shoes. Not because of my coordination in general.
No. Because I always had to mirror in my hand how to do it because I am left handed. Finally, I found another method to tie knots
for lacing my shoes almost no one else I know uses. But it works equally as good. And I remember my Dad helped me to find it.
I hope this article had helped you to make your life a little bit better and to push through on things. Especially if they’re quite hard.
Have a nice week.